Title Loving Like You Mean It
Subtitle Use the Power of Emotional Mindfulness to Transform Your Relationships
Author Ronald J. Frederick
ISBN 9781942094944
List price USD 17.95
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Binding Paperback
No of pages 312
Book size 153 x 229 mm
Publishing year 2019
Original publisher Central Recovery Press (Eurospan Group)
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Exclusive distributors Viva Books Private Limited
Sales territory India, Sri Lanka, Bangladesh, Pakistan, Nepal, .
Status New Arrival
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“Taking on nothing less than love, Dr. Ron Frederick swings and hits it out of the park with this must-read book. His dear, warm, and accessible style brings neuroscience, relationship theory, and years of clinical experience to help with our relationships. Reading this wise book you will not only understand why you do the things you do (even when you don’t want to), but also how to change so that you can love and be loved “

Diana Fosha, PhD, Developer of Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy and author of The Transforming Power of Affect


“With compassionate understanding of the ways in which our early experiences shape our emotional lives, Dr. Ron Frederick offers an inspiring, practical guide to free yourself from the past and grow the capacity for stronger, happier relationships.”

Elisha Goldstein, PhD, Co-founder of The Center for Mindful Living in Los Angeles


Loving Like You Mean It is a heartfelt, well written, and practical guide to applying mindfulness to the work of personal and relational transformation. Dr. Frederick brings you into his consulting room, sharing experiences from his work, and skillfully guides you down a path toward having more vital and rewarding relationships. Highly Recommended!”

Louis Cozolino, PhD, Psychology Professor at Pepperdine University and author of The Neuroscience of Human Relationships


“This book is pure gold. It presents complex insights in a warm, clear manner and acts as a roadmap to healthy and joyful relationships both with ourselves and those we love. I wish I had this book to refer to in all my adult relationships, and now that it’s here, I’ll gratefully recommend it to my clients.”

Raphael Cushnir, author of The One Thing Holding You Back and Setting Your Heart on Fire


“As gifted a writer as he is a psychotherapist, Dr. Ron Frederick expertly engages the reader in the most effective practices to recover true aliveness and wholeness in relationships. For people looking for clear guidance to navigate the challenges of emotional intimacy, this book is a gem.”

Linda Graham, MET, author of Bouncing Back and Resilience


No matter how hard we try, many of us struggle to make love work with our partners. The problem, as clinical psychologist Dr. Ron Frederick explains, is that our brains are running on outdated software. Without us knowing it, our early relationship programming causes us to fear being more emotionally present and authentic with our partners—precisely what’s needed to build loving connections. But we don’t have to remain prisoners to our past.

Grounded in cutting-edge neuroscience and attachment theory, Loving Like You Mean It shares a proven four-step approach to use emotional mindfulness to break free from old habits, befriend your emotional experience, and develop new ways of relating. The capacity for deep, loving connections is inside all of us, waiting to come out. By practicing the science behind loving like you mean it, your relationships can be fuller and richer than you ever imagined.




Part I: How We’re Wired

Chapter One. Making Sense of How You’re Wired

Chapter Two. You’ve Got To Have Style


Part II: Updating Our Wiring

Chapter Three. Step One: Recognize And Name

Chapter Four. Step Two: Stop, Drop, And Stay

Chapter Five. Step Three: Pause and Reflect

Chapter Six. Step Four: Mindfully Relate


Part III: Rewiring In Action

Chapter Seven. Feeling And Dealing

Closing. Becoming Real

Appendix: Seeking Professional Help


About The Author


About the Author:

Ronald J. Frederick, PhD, co-founded the Center for Courageous Living in Beverly Hills, California, and is a senior faculty member of the Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy Institute. For over twenty years, he has provided emotion-centered, experiential therapy to individuals and couples and actively trains other psychotherapists. Frederick is the author of the bestselling book Living Like You Mean It and a recipient of the American Psychological Association’s Malyon-Smith Scholarship Award for his research on the fear of intimacy. He lectures and teaches workshops around the world.

Target Audience:

This book is useful for people interested in neuroscience, psychotherapy, relationship theory. It helps people to navigate the challenges of emotional intimacy.


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